Sharing fashion: A note of thanks to friends and strangers
What an interesting few weeks these have been. I am about 50 followers strong on Twitter and have posted an outfit a day and other musings along the way. The hardest part is obviously taking the selfies and being utterly embarrassed about flooding my friends’ newsfeed with ME – making sure I am not irritating the heck out of people. Although, I am humbled to say, most of you have been very supportive for which I am thankful.
It’s not like I haven’t loved dressing up or talking about fashion for quite some time now, but to actually put myself out there is a different thing altogether. It’s amazing how slowly by slowly our perception changes about the world we live in- what privacy entails and how we interact on social media. It is true that a few years ago when some of my friends would suggest I get into fashion blogging, I’d be horrified at the idea of my photos being accessible to random strangers.
More than that was the fact that we really can’t stop wondering what people will think of us. I have always been a firm believer that if I do something, it should be for the greater good but then, fashion makes people happy, doesn’t it?
About two years ago, my best friend Rabia almost convinced me with the whole, ‘you dress up anyway, why not tweet it’ lecture. I even tried posting one photo but then, never got the guts to do it again. Opening myself to criticism and scrutiny and not knowing where it all leads isn’t an easy feat. Not as easy as I find wearing and loving clothes.
The funny thing is, it took some time and convincing from a new friend, Katie who is one of the most positive people you’ll ever meet. A total stranger initially, she would ‘harass’ me about starting a blog because in her words, “Everything you wear, I feel I can wear it too.” To me, it was a compliment because fashion should be doable. Models look snazzy, but can we really do what they are doing on a regular, everyday basis? I can’t.
So it happened, just like that. I don’t even know why I thought of Bright and Grey on the spur of the moment and thought it reminds me of ‘dark and grey’ or ‘light and day.’ There is something to be said about life and its hues. We have bright happy days and there are those days, we are just not feeling it. And we dress accordingly. Also, I think grey is ultimate neutral and wearable anytime, anywhere. I am not even sure if I should go with this as a ‘brand.’ I may still change it. I wonder if I should keep it simple by using my own name but then I thought, I could gora-fy (anglicize) it and go with my husband’s last name – make it Sam Creel or something but we’ll see!
So anyway, it’s been an organic process with simple posts and it’s been fun so far. I don’t have a grand plan or scheme. I have other interests, aspirations and fashion is a way of life so it is natural to talk about it. And who says, we only have to do one thing? It would be fun to do style advice or design a closet for a TV show or movie or do personal shopping and take the ladies out shopping! I have been doing Tumblr, Instagram, Pinterest and (gasp) doing what the teens do, like posting things on Lookbook. Basically, I am going with the flow.
And if along the way, something big happens, it will be sort of cool to make a name out there, get famous! Another friend, Mehreen T, early on in my ‘career’ sent me a link to a NYMag article on bloggers who have made it big with an encouraging tagline, “Your Bright Future,” and it was sweet.
I am still utterly bashful about the whole thing, but only yesterday, it was funny seeing a tweet from @CatttSays, a blogger I follow, who said: “Hey
#lbloggers! My family, friends and work know I blog and support me! They all think it’s cool but I’m still really embarrassed by it!” Trust me, I know the feeling.
The other interesting post I read was by the none other than the woman who started the What I Wore Today (WIWT) revolution, and I loved how she opened about growing up as a blogger.
So yeah, it is tough putting yourself out there. But coming back to a quote Katie posted right around the time I started blogging and ‘fearing:’
“Your life is not little, and your playing small doesn’t serve the world. Your living large, on the other hand—your being your true self despite fear, fatigue, doubt, and opposition— will serve the world more than you can imagine. In fact, it may help save it. And saving the world, after all, is what all heroes (including you) are here to do.” -Martha Beck, a sociologist, life coach and author.
I don’t know if I am saving the world or if it matters. It’s a little part of my life I am willing to share with everyone.
Like Catt, I am thankful my friends and family support me. The sweetest is when my dad and mother-in-law ‘like’ my posts almost every day (how proud can you be of your kids, really) and how my brother will do an obligatory ‘like’ without actually looking at the post just to be supportive. But he has gotten style advice from me since he was little, so it all comes back.
It is a warm, fuzzy thought that people whom I may not see or speak to often have shown their support. I want to mention my first few followers: Nisha, Basit, Nirmal, Sehr, Sana and my friends Novira, Ambreen, Nina, Nancy (with her daily likes), Ammara, Rabia M, Maham, Sabrina, Masooma, Fizza, Ayesha, Zara Z, Sheeka, Sheila, Raquel, Kaitlyn and Courtney who have shown the love. (Forgive me, if I have left anyone out)
Of course, I can’t thank those enough who don’t know me at all, yet still ‘hype’ or ‘like’ the looks I put together.
Mostly, things are looking bright and thank you for it all!
Breaking Denim Rules (by Bright&Grey)
Doing the denim on denim today. I’ve fallen prey to what’s in and I love it too! It’s a nice cool day in Chicago and this casual funky look is the way to be. My favourite are these suede oxfords which I got at the Italian shoe place on Clark Street across from Molly’s cupcakes. So if you’re ever in Chicago you gotta check it out. They still carry these shoes!
Fluffy Hydrangeas in Bloom (by Bright&Grey)
Doing stripes on stripes today. Rules are meant to be broken as long as you follow the rule of threes! http://brightngrey.tumblr.com/post/91051154532/the-rule-of-3s @brightngrey
Flowers on Michigan Ave (by Bright&Grey)
It was a casual weekend and I put on a tank top dress and a cut off sweatshirt on top! I love scarves and they are somewhat perfect to make your look dressy enough to go downtown for a few errands on Michigan Avenue. Chicago is beautiful in these months where we get to walk at leisure and appreciate our surroundings. Also if you’re thinking of visiting, I would say August is when you can’t help falling in love with this city. We are like ants- we forget the harsh winter (which has it’s own charm and beauty, plus fall fashion is amazing) and float about like we’ve never known the cold which only lasts about 8 months of the year:) There’s always a beautiful display of flowers and art down Michigan Ave and this was too good a photo op to let go! Don’t you just love orchids? That’s the flower I chose for my wedding! Also those bird houses were too darned cute to pass up!
Out on the town after a long week (by Bright&Grey)
I’m an advocate for comfortable fashion so naturally happy that it’s warm enough in Chicago to wear linen tops pants and light weight tops- the cool thing is it’s never too hot so you can accessorize and wear summer scarves without feeling stupid or hot!:) This scarf was a random find and I love the neon yellow and blue embroidery. Had been waiting for a cool summer day for it!
What’s hot at the Nordstrom sale this time?!